Question your Type A anger and hostility beliefs. Answer true or false to this statement: I need aggression and hostility to succeed. If your answer is true, then consider that by using aggression and hostility rather than understanding, you may damage your health and your relationships with family, friends and work colleagues. In the long run, this will not lead to success.
Making mistakes, failing to achieve goals, receiving adverse criticism, particularly in front of others, and perceiving a situation as unfair or embarrassing can trigger frustration and anger. As we described earlier such emotion led to excessive release of noradrenaline, the potential killer. When you next feel yourself getting irritated, aggravated and angry remember that, if triggered, your anger can inflict the most damage on the person you least intend – yourself. Train yourself to avoid anger: do not get hooked, practise anger control and use the quieting reflex (see page 129).
Try these two techniques; avoiding the hook and anger control. Avoiding the hook
Picture yourself as a fish in a river. Every morning you wake up and start swimming. The waters ahead appear clear but on the banks of the river are anglers casting their hooks, hoping to catch you. Suddenly a worm on a hook appears in front of you. The bait looks tempting but if you bite you will be hooked. Think; Bite or pass by?. You pass by, avoiding the bait. Unexpectedly another hook drops in front of you. Ask yourself; Bite or pass by?. You pass by, only to find more hooks appearing along your journey.
Type As bite all the time, perhaps 30 to 40 times a day. The problem is that we have no idea when the next hook is going to appear and this makes anger and hostility difficult to deal with.