Are there any reasons why women may be unable to have sex pregnancy?
Many women who become focused on getting pregnant complain that they feel dry and sex becomes uncomfortable. Unfortunately, all vaginal lubricants, whether water or oil-based (and even saliva), have been shown in rigorous trials to adversely affect sperm. Ideally, avoid using lubricants and aim to spend more time caressing and using foreplay to stimulate your body’s own natural lubricating fluids. If this approach does not work, then it is better to use a minimal amount of lubricant on the vaginal lips than to risk getting sore from dry sex.
It is not uncommon for couples to experience sexual difficulties after a few months of trying to conceive when they have previously had a really good sex life. As always, the main thing here is to try to relax and to talk about it with your partner. If you are concerned about dryness, talk to your doctor. It may be related to your age or to hormonal changes. Try to minimize your use of tampons (34) and avoid thongs as these can also be drying. Lifestyle and nutrition changes may be helpful (see Steps 5 and 6).
Sexual response can be divided into four phases: the excitement or arousal phase, the plateau phase, orgasm, and the resolution phase, when the body returns to normal. These phases occur in both men and women but with subtle differences. In men, sexual excitement builds rapidly to reach a plateau; in women it is more gradual. In both, arousal peaks at orgasm, which may or may not occur simultaneously.
A woman may have a short plateau phase, followed by a single orgasm; a longer plateau phase and multiple orgasms; or a plateau phase with no orgasm and a much slower resolution phase. Although men may find it hard to relate to this, all of these experiences can be deeply satisfying for a woman. Certainly, women do not need to reach orgasm to have Mulling sexual intercourse.
The refractory period refers to the time taken before a man is able to become sexually aroused again. Usually, the older a man is, the longer this period will be. Women, on the other hand, do not have a refractory period and, if they are stimulated appropriately, they can go on to have sex and further orgasms very soon after.
The pattern of sexual response varies from one individual to another and from one experience to another. Orgasm doubles the heart rate, raises blood pressure, and causes the release of oxytocin.
Relationships often suffer when couples start trying for a baby, particularly if pregnancy has not happened after a few months.
I see countless couples whose relationships are under strain and whose sex lives, consequently, are also going through problems. They come to me because they are trying to understand why this is and what they can do about it. Sex and relationships are intricately bound up and, if one area starts to encounter difficulties, the other will as well.
There is a lot of psychobabble talked about sex. People are often led to believe that their childhood is the cause of any sexual problems they might have. While this may be true for some people – and clearly, earlier relationships based on abuse, whether verbal, physical, emotional, or sexual, are extremely harmful – for most people, their sexual problems are recent and temporary, and are due to the fact that their concern about not getting pregnant is causing problems within the relationship.