WHAT PHASE OF RECOVERY AM I IN?
Look carefully at the phases of recovery and do your best to write about where you think you are right now, and why.
BEEN THERE, DONE THAT
Finding a connection with someone who has recovered and who is willing and able to help you in your journey is extremely beneficial. It doesn’t matter if this person is a professional, friend, teacher, mentor, or otherwise. People who have recovered have undoubtedly made it through periods where they lost patience and motivation, slipped back, thought they would not make it, or perhaps even lost hope. Learning how others who have gone before you got through difficult times can help you stay motivated, hopeful, and patient with yourself and it can be inspiring to hear stories of success and how different and great life can be on the other side.
Sometimes role models can come in ways we don’t expect. For example, meeting others who haven’t recovered can also be a motivator. One client explains it this way :
I just couldn’t stay motivated to stick to any plan. People said they were scared for me and asked me if I was scared of dying. Sometimes I would lie and say I was, but in all honesty I wasn’t. I was much more afraid of eating normally or going back to how I used to be. Once I had a medical complication and it scared me for a few days, but that wore off. I agreed to join your group, but I doubted it would help. I was hoping that there might be people in this group who were further along in recovery than I was and would inspire me to keep going.However, it turns out that the most helpful person in the group was an older woman who had been struggling for 30 years. Being in the group with her was the first time Ifelt more afraid of not getting well than recovering. I knew that if I didn ‘t work harder to get well, I would end up like her, still sick 30 years from now, if I lived that long. She never got married, had children or traveled. Her life was very small and she was anxious, sad and alone. The group and seeing that woman were a turning point for me. I realized I really needed to try if I wanted to change the course of my life. I also realized no matter what, for better or worse, we are all role models in some way. We usually think that having a positive role model is better, but in my situation, a negative one helped motivate me to get serious about recovery andfight for it.
INTERVIEW SOMEONE WHO IS RECOVERED
Find at least one person who has recovered from an eating disorder to interview, even if it is over the phone. Use the questions below as a guide and add any others you have. Write about the experience and what you learned
What surprised you most about the process of recovery?
What do you wish someone had told you about the recovery process?
What do you wish you had done sooner?
Were there specific turning points you can remember?
Do you have any tips for dealing with body image?
What helped you to stay motivated, or get motivation back if you lost it?
How did you stay patient or deal with losing your patience during the process?
How did you use others to help during your recovery?
How long did it take for you to feel fully recovered?
Is there anything you can share with me that will give me hope?