How will I cope if I do have a miscarriage pregnancy?
If you are unlucky enough to miscarry, you must not blame yourself, as it is unlikely that anything you did contributed to the pregnancy loss. Losing a baby at any stage of pregnancy is devastating and it can take several months to recover physically and, especially, mentally. Your acute sense of loss means that mourning and grief will go through various stages, from shock and disbelief, to numbness, confusion, anger, guilt, and maybe even depression. Don’t hesitate to seek specialist professional help for both psychological and medical care: many maternity units will have counsellors who are trained to help you and your partner come to terms with what you have gone through.
Whether or not you tell family, friends, and colleagues (who may not even have known you were pregnant) will be a personal decision, but one which you might be helped to reach with professional guidance. You will also be helped to decide how long to wait before trying for another baby. Make sure that when you do start again you are strong enough both physically and mentally.
We have reached the end of the first trimester. Are we really going to be parents pregnancy?
Getting through the first 12 weeks of pregnancy is always seen as a major step for women, especially those who have had problems getting or staying pregnant. After this time, the pregnancy is no longer supported by hormones, but by the placenta, and the risk of miscarriage falls dramatically. Women who miscarry after the first trimester do so either because their baby has a congenital abnormality (which is often genetic in origin), or because they have contracted an infection such as listeria, or because their body is physically not able to carry a pregnancy. Luckily, such cases are rare, so once the 12th week has passed, couples usually feel sufficiently relaxed and confident about the pregnancy to be able to tell family and friends about it.
There are sound reasons for believing that you can now start to enjoy the rest your pregnancy, safe in the knowledge that it is unlikely that anything will go wrong. You can begin to plan in more concrete terms for the arrival of your baby in a few months’ time.
Your future as parents becomes more assured now that the generally more hazardous first trimester has passed.