Is it normal to feel resentful of a partner’s fertility problem pregnancy?
This can certainly happen, but it is a pointless, destructive feeling and one that can be overcome by becoming aware of certain truths. First, do not race ahead of yourself. Your partner may have a fertility problem, but this does not mean that you will not become parents. Many fertility problems can be overcome and some even resolve themselves without the need for medical intervention. Sometimes, time and patience is all that is required, or a change of diet and lifestyle. I know that is of little comfort to you if all you want is to conceive as soon as possible, but I have come across so many couples who were despondent about their chances of becoming pregnant, yet when they made a few changes to their lives, they conceived a baby.
Secondly, it is vital that you do not lose sight of who your partner is. This is the person you fell in love with. You did not choose your partner because of his or her fertility, but because of a host of qualities you loved and admired and were attracted to. What good is the most fertile person in the world if he or she does not have what it takes to make you happy in the way your partner has up until now pregnancy? And the last thing your partner needs right now is to feel a failure. He or she needs your complete support and understanding, and to be certain that you will continue to go through life together, whatever happens, as a team.
If you let your disappointment in the situation show, you could not only be harming your chances of conception (through excessive anxiety and pressure) but you could be doing permanent damage to your relationship. Concentrate on what makes you happy as a couple, and on loving each other as you have done in the past, and you will be ready to take on whatever life throws at you.