It What are the main triggers for sex in men and women pregnancy?
You each need to ask yourselves what normally triggers your desire for sex. Ignoring the fact that you are trying for a baby, try to gain awareness of what makes you want to have sex. The answers will doubtless be very different depending on whether you are a man or a woman. Spontaneous desire for sex is common among men. In addition, while most men respond to visual
stimuli and to specific moods and feelings, others need to think about or even enact certain fantasies to become aroused. Women, on the other hand, respond to mood, verbal communication with their partner, a feeling of intimacy and trust and of being loved and wanted. Visual stimuli are less important, but fantasies can also play a part in women’s arousal. Women often do not feel like sex unless they feel relaxed and stress-free, whereas men often use sex as a form of stress relief.
The reality is that, for many women, the trigger for sex is not watching a steamy DVD. Instead, it is more likely to involve her man cooking a meal and doing the washing-up without needing to be asked, or bringing her breakfast in bed in the morning.
Sometimes âœtriggersâ for sex do not need to be explained – indeed, if they involve fantasies, it may be better not to. But it can also help to discuss the triggers with your partner, particularly if you are in a relationship where your sex life has deteriorated to the point where you are going through the motions for the sake of making a baby (69).