Pre Wedding Worries Your Mum Might Have
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Worries your mum might have And how to navigate them without risking a total domestic meltdown. Plus, the real-life monster-in-law you’ll be glad isn’t yours!
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1 YOU’RE NOT KEEPING HER IN THE LOOP
It will come as no surprise to know your mum’s expecting some involvement in these wedding plans of yours. Futureproof against any minor (or major) upsets by keeping her updated with your plans and thoughts via weekly emails and occasional texts. After all, where’s the harm in: ‘Hi, Mum, shall we do speeches before or after dinner? Can’t decide!’ even if you’ve made up your mind already?
2 SHE’S JUST AS SELF-CONSCIOUS AS YOU
If your guest list includes quite a few of your parents’ friends, Mum will want to look her best, as well as impress your friends (even if she’s never met them). Her hair, make-up, outfit and accessories need to be on point, and here’s where your stylish eye can help. Book in some time to discuss her look.
3 SHE’S FEELING THE PINCH
If your parents are forking out for a good chunk of the wedding, they could be trying to economise on everyday items to ensure they can foot the bill. Nothing screams stress more than money worries, so bear that in mind if she’s acting a little out of sorts.
4 YOU’RE SOMEONE ELSE’S NUMBER ONE NOW
Your marriage represents you and your fiance combining as a new family unit, and your mum won’t be your next of kin any more. That’s a massive identity shift for most mothers to accept, hence all the emotions flying around right now. Mention how much you value her support and opinions.
5 SHE’S REMINISCING ABOUT HER OWN WEDDING
If you’ve seen a sudden spike in your mum’s tendencies to interfere, it might be that her own mother took over her wedding planning and she’s now living vicariously through you. Ask her about her own big day and what she would have done differently; it will highlight that these are different times and there might be some good advice buried in there!
6 SHE’S NOT A FAN OF YOUR TASTES
It’s a bitter pill to swallow: paying for someone else’s party when you don’t perhaps like their choices. Help everyone get a little perspective (trust us, you’re all bound to need it at some point) by steering the conversation away from the finer details and towards the moment itself. For instance, she might disapprove of a cheese tower in lieu of a traditional fruitcake, so reinforce the excitement of the ‘cutting’ as the kick-off to the party.
7 SHE’S NOT QUEEN BEE THIS TIME
If the usual practice is for family events to give Mum her time to shine, your wedding – for all its excitement and pleasure – could serve as something of a demotion. If you’re concerned that she might feel a little overlooked, it can’t hurt to withhold some of your most indulgent touches (like the made-to measure shoes and full- on monthly pampering sessions) and discuss ways in which she can be part of the day, such as making a speech or having a fancy hire car to whisk her off to the reception.
8 SHE’S OFFICIALLY I OLDER
Fact: childhood milestones make mums feel older, from your first day at nursery to your graduation. And now you’re becoming . a wife. Why not take her for a day of wedding-outfit shopping and encourage her to try on fresh, modern : styles to bolster her sense : of youth and fun? fitting, and while I was measured, she stripped down and tried on a gown herself. She even took the staff by surprise!
After we booked the reception venue (which my parents kindly paid for), she
invited a group of friends to have lunch at the restaurant to suss the place out, then emailed me and my fiance to say how disappointed she was in our choice.
Rather than walking in before the ceremony with her husband, she arranged for the best man to escort her down the aisle to her seat. and gave me an incorrect address so the invitations never arrived. There were four empty seats for the meal – then the missing guests made their entrance in the middle of my husband’s speech.
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