Test: What kind of friend are you?

1 Your friends come to see you when they need… A A shoulder to cry on. B Honest, no-holds barred advice. C A raucous good time. D A long overdue catch-up. 2 It’s your best friend’s birthday, what do you decide to do for her? A Host a dinner for the girls and bake her favourite cake. B Take her shopping and treat her to something she loves. C Arrange a boozy night out for the gang. D Promise you’ll book a spa weekend for the two of you… but never actually get around to doing it. 3 Some girls are being nasty about a friend of yours on a night out, how do you react to the situation? A Take them to one side and ask them why they would say such a thing.

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B Tell them you won’t tolerate anyone talking behind your friend’s back. C ‘Accidentally’ spill your drink on them when you pass the table. D Nothing – because you only hear about it the next day when it’s too late. 4 Your married friend tells you she’s been sexting a guy from work, do you… A Tell her you’re worried about and needs to stop it straight away. C Laugh – and ask her to show you all the saucy messages.

D Ask her to remind you where she works. 5 Your friend gets a promotion and an engagement ring in one week, how do you feel? A Absolutely thrilled and proud of her, of course. She deserves it. B Jealous as hell. C Pleased for her, but scared you’ll lose your right-hand gal to a life of drudgery. D Worried about how much celebrating all these events will cost you. 6 The qualities you value most in a friend are…

A Love and loyalty. B Honesty and a sense of humour. C A zest for life, partying, and a high tolerance for alcohol. D Patience and unconditional support You’re naturally maternal and always want the best for your friends. They know that they can come to you at any hour of the day or night for some tender loving care and they’re lucky to have you. But beware that they don’t become too reliant on you, or that you start be dedicating to other areas of your life.

If you have children, do you really have the time to mother your friends as well? And is it fair on your other half to spend so many evenings talking down your friend from her latest drama? Try to establish some boundaries and not spread yourself too thinly. It’s not your job to look after your friends 24/7. And who is looking after you? Friendships should be a two-way street and always taking on other people’s problems, while not voicing your own, could start to weigh you down and stress you out.


We know it’s hard to juggle family life, career and your relationship, never mind factoring in time for a social life, but you are flaky with a capital F. You’re lucky you have such understanding friends, but they’re not going to hang around forever if you never make the time for them. Missing out on bonding time with your buddies won’t be doing your well-being any favours, either. Our female friendships often even outlast marriages – they give you the opportunity to vent, to laugh, to let go. So do yourself a favour and take another look at your diary – is there really no window to meet for a coffee or an evening out? Put off the washing and the grocery shop to another day, leave the kids with their dad, and have a bit of girl time. We promise you will be glad you did.


If a fun night out is what your friends need, you’re the first person they call. You’re always up for a party and an evening with you is guaranteed to lighten their life. But try to spend time together in sober daylight hours, too, when you can have a meaningful conversation that you’ll remember the next day. It’s easy to slip into the ‘good time girl’ role when you’re the youngest of the group, still single, or don’t have kids, but try to show an interest in your friends’ lives even when they’re very different to yours. And remind them it works both ways – they shouldn’t be dismissive of your dating dramas just because they don’t remember what it was like to be there themselves.


When your besties need some tough love, you’re their go-to girl. You’re loyal and straight-talking when they ask advice. They always know where they stand with you, which is good, but be careful not to overstep the mark and risk hurting their feelings. Honesty is not ALWAYS the best policy, especially when it comes to other people’s relationships. They may want to rage about their partner one day, but when they make up, they’ll still remember your harsh words. Sometimes all friends really need is someone to simply listen.

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