An important part of our philosophy, which also sends a huge message of hope to our clients, is our belief that you can be recovered. This means you can get over your eating disorder fully, not be in remission or managing it, but to a place where it is gone, out of your life forever. We know this is the truth. Not only have we experienced it ourselves, we have seen and helped many others get there too. It is important for you to know what to expect when you get there, so below we describe what being recovered looks like:
âœBeing recovered is when you can accept your natural body size and shape and no longer have a self-destructive relationship with food or exercise. When you are recovered, food and weight take a proper perspective in your life, and what you weigh is not more important than who you are; in fact, actual numbers are of little or no importance at all. When recovered, you will not compromise your health or betray your soul to look a certain way, wear a certain size, or reach a certain number on the scale. When you are recovered, you do not use eating disorder behaviors to deal with, distract from, or cope with other problems. â (Costin & Grabb, 2012)
Our belief that people with eating disorders can be fully recovered is now shared by many therapists and others who treat eating disorders. It is a belief that Carolyn has been espousing for over 30 years, and one that has given hope back to many people who had lost it long ago.
âœI had no hope for getting better. In fact I was told I would have to learn to manage my illness because full recovery was not possible for people with eating disorders. I thought that if I had to deal with this for the rest of my life that it was not worth it to ever try to get better. Then I met Carolyn and saw the light in her eyes when she said she was fully recoveredfor over 30 years and if she could do it so could I. â
After the 8 Keys secrets was published we received a lot of correspondence telling us how much hope people gained from reading that being recovered is possible. Many people erroneously believed that they would always be âœin recoveryâ or âœrecoveringâ from their eating disorder.
âœThe first time I ever heard the idea that I could be fully recovered was in your 8 Keys secrets. Thank you from the bottom of my heart. It gave me so much hope that I am not a lost cause and got me to try treatment again. â
âœI had no idea people recovered from eating disorders. Your stories and hearing from other people who recovered renewed my motivation to get better. Now I need to find someone to help me, but the biggest thing holding me back was myself. I had given up hope. â